How to write a book on relationships - and lose your own! (that's what my
partner says!) Not really - but the process provided graphic illustration
of how necessary it is to reserve energy for your at-home relationships.
Never, at any point, can we take a sexual partnership for granted for very
long. Writing the book has certainly helped me be 'smarter' about love (as
one of the top American academics put it). I now understand which areas
for similarity are important, and which don't matter at all; and how in
our relationship we should never go through a process of 'boom and bust'
- that is, investing lots of time and attention in it at one stage and then,
at another time, leaving it to take care of itself.